Christian Recovery Group Rule of Appropriate Feedback

How to Use the Wisdom of God and the Mind of Christ in Group Situations

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A facilitator needs to be aware of what proper feedback is so that they can relate it to the group members. Feedback is what moves the group from one point to another. One of the most important ways in which education and healing takes place in a group is a willingness of facilitators and participants to give and receive feedback.

If feedback is given honestly and with sensitivity, members are able to understand the impact they have on each other and decide what, if anything, they want to change about their internal circumstances. It helps others to be responsible for creating situations in which they can relate to someone besides themselves.

Proper feedback helps group members connect to each other through commonalities instead of focusing on their differences. They may not all speak the same language or come from the same geographic area, group members can connect through similar feelings. They can experience one another's pain and triumphs.

Facilitators or counselors can help the group achieve a high level of cohesion by focusing on the underlying issues, feelings and needs that the members seem to share. When there is cohesion, the group cares about each other and more healing takes place.

Proper feedback is about the person speaking, not about the one giving feedback. Never allow a group member to steal the floor from the person sharing their struggles and fears. When a person gives feedback, they need to relate to what the person is saying by keeping the focus on the person and not on themselves.

An example might be, "Sally, I have also had a problem with not being able to sleep, and what I tried wasÂ? (give two or three example." This way they give the floor back to original speaker. That person knows that others care about what is happening to them and feel respected. They have some concrete choices to pick from if they want.

Group counseling is not about the facilitator or group members telling others what they ought to do. Christian counseling should always keep the focus on God and what He can do. It is good to always remember that God is the higher power and not the facilitator or group members.

Giving Scripture is a great remedy and has answers to every problem.

If a facilitator is always giving feedback by telling members what they should do, problems may arise. A group member can become dependent on the leader or even learn to resent them because they refuse to take the leaders advice. Worse yet, a group member might partially implement a suggestion and when it doesn't work, they place blame. If this happens, trust will be broken between that particular group member and the facilitator.

Learning when to give feedback and how much is more a matter of timing and wisdom than training in how to be a counselor. With God, a facilitator can use the mind of Christ and the Spirit of God to speak.

Written by: Sherry Colby