Encourage and Support Those Around You
Say your daughter decides she wants to play basketball for her high school team, though she's never stepped foot on a court. But, she knows that her old man was a star on his high school team, and she wants to follow in his able footsteps. How can you help her to achieve her goal?
Firstly, by supporting her decision. The opinions of leaders matter to those around them. Let her know that you think she can do it.
Secondly, by providing her with the things she'll need to succeed -- a basketball, high top sneakers, and a place to practice, for example. Practical support is one of the keystones of good leadership.
Finally, by teaching her the rules of the game, the fundamentals of dribbling, shooting, and boxing out, and by encouraging her when she starts to sink sweet hook shots! It's this sort of encouragement and support that a good leader provides to all the members of his organization or group.
Discourage Negative Behaviors
But what about negative behaviors? Maybe, instead of becoming a basketball star, your daughter falls into the wrong crowd of people, starts skipping classes and failing tests in school. Some behaviors require discouragement from leaders -- skipping classes isn't good for her, it isn't good for her friends, it isn't good for her family, and it isn't good for her community.
One of the best ways to discourage the wrong actions is to encourage the right ones. When she does well on a test, praise her for it -- take her out for ice cream, or make her curfew for the weekend a half hour later.
Perhaps the best thing you can do is to keep love and compassion in your heart, in the interest of understanding the person as deeply as possible. The actions we take in our lives are often symptoms of deeply rooted desires or dissatisfactions. Maybe, in a case like this, you aren't the best person to give advice to your daughter. She may need to hear the things you'd like to tell her from a friend, relative, or pastor instead.
By developing the emotional and practical ways of encouraging and supporting those around you, you will improve the quality of all aspects of their lives, spirituality and faith included. As people come to understand that they can rely on you for support, your role as a Christian leader will naturally grow.