Some women can be drama queens and manipulators. Some are known as emotional basket cases. Others are attention seekers and gossipers. They either lie or cry to get their way. They know how to play a good victim. They know how to seduce, and they know how to nicely stab someone in the back. None of these are good qualities. In fact, most people will agree that these kinds of behaviors are sinful and should be avoided. But unfortunately, all of these behaviors can be found even among Christian women. And every one of them begins in the heart.
Whatever is in the heart will eventually find its way out. That is why Scripture is clear when it comes to sins of the heart: "Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it spring the issues of life." (Proverbs 4:23, NKJV) The wise and practical King Solomon spoke the secret to staying out of trouble: If the heart is pure, the life will show it. To just merely change the actions does not cause the heart to become pure. The change must first begin in the heart, and the actions will follow.
To change her heart, every Christian woman must allow the Holy Spirit to expose the weakened and sinful areas in her life. Then she needs to repent of them, and learn to overcome them with the truth from God's Word. This is often a lifelong process of change, but the fruit can be seen almost immediately. Over time, she will develop a pure heart and spirit, one that lives for God alone.
God has called Christians, including women, to live a life worthy of their calling. There is no place for selfishness among Christian women, just like there is no place for lies or back-stabbing. Instead, women are to let their gentle and quiet spirit spill out from within, so that every part of their life may be a testimony of the work of Jesus Christ.